I wanted to discuss fun things that make marriage exciting and enjoyable; then I realized that most marriages that are experiencing turbulence started that way with love, fun things and exciting things. The Lord impressed on my spirit to talk about enemies of the family.

God loves the family so he cannot be the enemy of the family. As a matter of fact, the bible tells us in 1Pe 5:7 that God cares for us. He does. I know He does. I can testify to that. Your enemy is not your spouse or in-laws (though they could be used as agents).

It’s sad to see husband and wife fighting against each. Yes you have an enemy and it’s not your spouse! The bible clearly identifies who our enemy is: the devil! 1Pe 5:8-9, “8Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 9Whom resist stedfast in the faith…”

The bible says in Eph 6:12, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood

Ways The Enemy Attacks The Family

1. Financial difficulties. Joblessness, business failure etc. I have ministered to couples with this kind of challenge. One I ministered to several years ago was heading for divorce before I intervened. The man thought his wife was responsible for his inability to secure a job for 10 years. He said he discovered that his misfortune began 10 years ago when he married his wife. It was a lie. I ministered to him and his fortune changed. He is still married to the same wife. He called me a few weeks ago; they are doing very well after 15 years of being ministered to. The Lord has just directed me to anoint the feet of His people once a month to set them in high places.

2. Delay in having children. This is common especially where spirit spouses are present and undetected.

3. Intangible and baseless misunderstandings leading to breakdown of affection, attention and communication. You are irritated with your spouse for some flimsy reasons; sometimes for no reason. Little mistakes are exaggerated. This is the enemy’s favourite strategy. It destroys the power of agreement which is so vital in defeating the enemy and succeeding in marriage.

4. This leads to the next opening: infidelity. Satan likes to prevent his candidates who may not be as beautiful or handsome as your spouse. When this happens, don’t fight each other or leave each other; fight the devil. I’m not saying that such behaviour is excusable but the real enemy is the devil. There are legions of demons on the loose and their assignment is to breakdown families with immorality. They will continue to succeed until we recognize the problem and deal with it.

5. Health challenges.

Suggested Remedies

1. Prayer and fasting.

2. Couples who have not gone through deliverance should do so. Deliverance takes care of Ancestral curses: unbroken family curses that hinder marriage, negative parental pronouncements, Witchcraft curses: Remotely programmed demonic frustration. Bewitchment or enchantment, spirit spouses etc. Satan’s foot soldiers should be cast out of people’s lives.

3. Pray together daily especially in tongues. Hold hands.

4. Do the simple things of kissing, hugging, etc daily.

5. Communicate honestly and openly.

6. Eat at least a meal together each day if both of you are working or busy.

7. Defend and protect each other. Pray for each other. Speak kind words to each other.

8. Encourage each other to pay tithe as a principle and sow seeds.

9. When children delay in coming, seek for help both medically and spiritually.

God bless your marriage and give you new wine in Jesus name.